How to Eat Just One Chocolate Chip Cookie

by Stacey / Create a Balance on January 5, 2009 · 11 comments

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This is a guest post from Tess Marshall of The Bold Life.

We live in a culture obsessed with weight and food. Making New Year Resolutions to lose weight usually only deals with how much or what one consumes.  I believe the missing piece is failing to look at how we consume our food.

How many times a day do you eat on the run? I recently asked a client to become aware of how often and why he eats in his car. By observing his behavior he discovered he gulped fast food on his way home from work at least four times per week never enjoying any of it.

His goal was to make time to plan and prepare healthy meals. The next step I suggested was to learn how to eat mindfully.

Whether you want to lose weight or not I invite you to learn how to eat mindfully. Mindful eating involves becoming fully aware of the tastes, smells, thoughts and feelings you have as you consume a snack or meal. Mindful eating allows you to savor each bite.

Eating while multi-tasking leads to eating faster and eating more. It’s impossible to enjoy and derive pleasure from meals when they become another task to fit in our day. We have learned to eat in meetings, while watching TV, in our cars and beds, in front of our computers and while running errands.

When we are hungry our central nervous system and brain receive signals from our body. It’s our brain that sends out the message of being full. When our mind is multi-tasking while we’re eating the signals of fullness are missed by our brain. If our brain doesn’t receive or misses the messages of taste and satisfaction it will continue to send out hunger signals which lead to overeating.

Eating mindfully is being aware of the experience of eating. Mindful eaters are present in the moment. They experience chewing, tasting and swallowing.

Mindful eating is also becoming aware of when your mind wanders during a meal. You then return your awareness to the eating process and the experience of savoring and enjoying your food.

Exercise for Mindful Eating

1. Take one bite of a pear and close your eyes. Focus on the pear’s texture, taste and the sensation in your mouth.

2. Begin to chew slowly noticing what it feels like. When your mind wanders let go of the thought and pay attention to chewing. Notice how your mouth moves as you chew.

3. As you swallow the pear stay present and notice the transition from chewing to swallowing.

4. With awareness notice how the food moves from your tongue to your throat. Swallow.

5. Take a deep breath. Exhale.

Mindful eating will also slow down the process of eating. Pay attention to how many times you chew a mouthful of food before swallowing and focus on savoring each bite.

Eating Cookies Mindfully

When you are mindful, you notice how your stomach feels and when you’ve had enough. Eating one cookie mindfully is enjoying each bite. By slowing down the process and staying in the present moment eating an entire box of cookies becomes undesirable.

1. When you pick up the cookie become aware of its sweet smell.

2. As you take the first bite notice the sound of the cookie crunching. 

3. Taste and savor the warm chocolate chip melting on your tongue.

4. Chew slowly, notice the sound chewing creates. 

5. Become present as you swallow.

6. Pause before the next bite.

7. As you continue eating the cookie continue to savor the smell, the taste, and the sounds eating a cookie involves. 

Methods to Encourage Mindful Eating

  • Eat with chopsticks.
  • Chew your food 25 times per bite.
  • Eat sitting down preferably at a table. (Without a computer, television, or books)
  • Put just enough food on your plate. Don’t overload.
  • Make each meal last 20 minutes. If you are finished before the 20 minutes sit and have a conversation for the duration.
  • Identify trigger foods that set you up for mindless eating.
  • Go for the quality of food over quantity.
  • Appreciate your food and what brought it to your table.
  • Be grateful for the experience of eating a meal.

It’s Also Necessary To…

Eat what you crave. Except for medical reasons don’t allow yourself to be deprived of a particular food. Deprivation leads to binging and guilt. Don’t divide foods into good and bad.

Dump All Diets. Instead learn to taste and pause in between every bite. You will naturally eat less.

Stop At Full. Your body will tell you when it’s time to quit eating. Identify the signals your body sends you. Watch for signs that indicate “enough.” 

Recognize Pleasure and Satisfaction. Identify the difference between emotional hunger and physical hunger.  Eat what you want to eat in a warm and inviting atmosphere. Enjoying the experience of dining will allow you to feel satisfied. Being content while eating allows you to eat less.

Tune into Your Feelings. Prior to eating are you feeling lonely, depressed, anxious, stressed or angry? Learning to cope with your feelings is as important as your food choices.

Tune into Your Thoughts. What are you thinking? I shouldn’t eat this, I should eat that. I’m fat and she’s so thin. Become aware of positive and negative thoughts. Breathe through them. You don’t have to make them mean so much. Learn to let thoughts go.

Respect and Accept Your Body. Less than 5% of the population look like fashion models. Accept and appreciate your body, you will feel better about who you are.

Feel Energized With Exercise. Move your body while doing something fun. Walk with a friend. Play volleyball. Join a baseball team. Go rollerblading. Make exercise enjoyable and feel energized too.

Respect Your Health. If you want to live a long healthy life make consistent and wise decisions regarding your eating and exercising patterns. You don’t need to be perfect just continue moving forward.

Benefits!

  • A healthy relationship with food
  • Emotional satisfaction
  • Positive mental and physical health
  • Less stress and anxiety
  • Increased happiness
  • Maintaining a healthy weight
  • Acceptance of your body and self
  • A sense of balance and well-being

Read more from Tess at her blog, The Bold Life or subscribe to her feed.

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Celebrate Your Life Friday! 01.02.09

by Stacey / Create a Balance on January 2, 2009 · 18 comments

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Celebrating the Create a Balance Enthuse Muse

If you missed it, check out my Enthuse Muse Post for some authentic support, encouragement, and love.


Celebrating New Members of this Community

As you know, every Friday I introduce and celebrate new members of the Create a Balance community. Please take a moment to welcome this week’s new members…..



 

Celebrating My Gratitude Attitude

Here are my gratitude journal entries for the week.

  1. Celebrating Hanukkah with my family.
  2. The one day in December when it was over 50 degrees outside.
  3. People taking my survey over at the Create a Balance Brainstorming Party. 
  4. My oldest son’s stomach bug didn’t last too long.
  5. My youngest son’s funky dotty rash was not the chicken pox.
  6. Being caffeine-free for 4 days (the migraines are finally gone).
  7. Finally eating healthy again after a week of latke mania.

As always, I welcome you to reflect on your week,
see the goodness in your life, and
share what you are grateful for in the comments section.



This is Your Moment to Celebrate!

Share your attitude of gratitude! Let us know how you are celebrating your life this week.

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Sending You An Enthuse Muse

by Stacey / Create a Balance on January 1, 2009 · 26 comments

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Today I am sending each of you an Enthuse Muse to help you take action in 2009 towards your personal practice of life balance.

You Have My Support

I send you my support as you begin to make positive changes and take gentle movements towards your dreams.

You Have My Encouragement

I encourage you to get excited about your personal possibilities for 2009.  Tell people about your dreams and about the next micromovement you will be doing to help you reach your goals.

May You Have an Abundance of Positive Energy

Building excitement and being full of positive energy is the best medicine to conquer your fears and to embrace the changes you are wanting in your life.  

I send you a safe welcoming space for you to live your dreams and look forward to hearing about your adventures inside this sacred space.

I send you an abundance of positive energy to help you move from thinking into action!

You’ve got what it takes to live your best life this year! 

What are the steps you are taking towards practicing the art of life balance? 

What steps are you taking to make this the best year yet?

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Celebrate Your Life Friday! 12.26.2008

by Stacey / Create a Balance on December 25, 2008 · 9 comments

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Wishing you all a happy holiday season and happy new year.
My next post will be up on 1/1/09.

Celebrating the Power of Brainstorming!

Today I am celebrating the power of brainstorming and my courage to ask for help.

Yes, I need your help.

You are invited to the first  Create a Balance Brainstorming Party.

WHEN? Right now! Click here to jump right in!

WHAT? Help me assess what services and products can help people practice the art of life balance.

WHY? I want to learn more about what people want and what you expect from CreateaBalance.com.

HOW? Click here to take the survey and join the party!

FREE PRIZE? Free goody bags are available for those attending the party.

 

Celebrating New Members of this Community

As you know, every Friday I introduce and celebrate new members of the Create a Balance community. Please take a moment to welcome this week’s new members…..

Celebrating My Gratitude Attitude

Here are my gratitude journal entries for the week.

  1. Ryan from Oktober5 for helping me upgrade to WordPress 2.7.
  2. My sister and our unconditional love for each other.
  3. My amazing parents (who are celebrating their forty-fourth wedding anniversary this week).
  4. New friendships that continue to grow.
  5. Webcams.
  6. My literacy.
  7. YOU for being part of the CreateaBalance.com experience.

As always, I welcome you to reflect on your week,
see the goodness in your life, and
share what you are grateful for in the comments section.

This is Your Moment to Celebrate!

Share your attitude of gratitude! Let us know how you are celebrating your life this week.

Click here to take the survey.

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Gifts From My Dad

by Stacey / Create a Balance on December 21, 2008 · 28 comments

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My parents are a source of radiant light in my life. They provide me with love, support, humor, and stability. As we celebrated my dad’s birthday this month, I asked him a few questions about how he has practiced the art of life balance throughout his life and how he has been able to keep such a positive outlook on life.

Here are the gifts I have learned from my dad…

1. Read The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
This book, which was written in 1952, made my dad realize that life is more enjoyable when you think positive. Therefore, he has made a conscious choice throughout his life to think positive.

2. Utilize the Power of Brainstorming
Many years ago my dad took a valuable brainstorming class. Since then, he has used brainstorming techniques to review all of his choices when making a decision. My dad was a pioneer of choice management and he continues to teach me how to make decisions and take actions that will allow me to live my best life.  

When he thinks about a life question, he writes down all of his options. Through this process his options always lead to additional possibilities and his list continues to grow. He has taught me that one of the greatest things about brainstorming is the process of new ideas and options growing exponentially because one thought will lead to another thought, which will lead to another thought, etc…

3. Identify and Remember Your Values
After my dad creates his brainstorming list, he reviews his options using a values filter. When he was deciding on a career choice, over 40 years ago, he sat down and brainstormed what he was capable of doing for a living. 

First he wrote down many ideas and came up with many options. Then he filtered his list based on his core values. He did not want to work weekends, he wanted to be home every night to have dinner with his family, and he wanted to work shorter hours.

My dad was also a pioneer of creating a balanced life. He knew he wanted to make a good living without working too many hours.

4. Take Time to Refuel
For my dad, life balance means taking a break every once in awhile. Every six months he takes a vacation - time to remove himself from the regular routine to completely unwind.

He encourages everyone to take a two-week vacation. He believes one week is not enough time to completely unwind because the secret is in the second week when you are truly able to relax. 

5. Live Consciously
My dad’s career choice was consciously in sync with his values and his passion to travel. Success, opportunities, and life events don’t just happen for my dad. He thinks about life and makes choices that he knows will make him happy.

6. Be Bold
When my dad was considering a career change, from accounting to sales, he wanted to prove to himself that he could be successful in sales. He made a bold move and took a door-to-door sales job selling dishes for $50. For each set of dishes he sold, he made $10.

One day, with confidence and determination, he sold 10 sets of dishes. Not only was he a successful salesman, he also enjoyed the sales process. Although he never sold door-to-door again, this bold experiment led him to his new career in sales. 

7. Enjoy Life
My dad’s bottom line philosophy is that life is more enjoyable if you think positive…so just think positive. I asked him how he can think positive when the burden of the world is too much to handle or when loved ones pass away.

I wanted to know how I can think positive when I am not feeling positive. He told me that I have to choose to think positive. He encourages me to go on with my best life, to keep going, and to hope for the best.

8. Accept the Things You Cannot Change
My dad was a pioneer of the serenity prayer and believes we need to let go of things we cannot control. He believes this is a great attitude to live by each and every day.

The Serenity Prayer
“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”

9. Perfectionism is Overrated
My dad was a pioneer in rejecting the notion of perfectionism. Some people excel in one or two things. They are experts and masters. My dad enjoys being a jack-of-all-trades and a master in none. He does what he loves and doesn’t focus on being the best.

When my dad plays tennis and golf, he enjoys each moment regardless of the outcome. He loves playing a good game, but having fun during the game will trump victory every time.   

10. Laugh
It is guaranteed that every time I see my dad I eventually laugh so hard that it brings tears to my eyes. He gifts the world with his humor, his puns, and his silliness. He has taught me the power of laughter and of being silly. He believes life is too short to take life too seriously.

Today I share the gifts from my dad with the world and honor the gift I have to be my dad’s daughter.

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Celebrate Your Life Friday! 12.19.2008

by Stacey / Create a Balance on December 19, 2008 · 17 comments

Welcome to Celebrate Your Life Friday!

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Celebrating the Choice to Make a Decision

This week I participated in Tom Volker’s free coaching teleclass titled Deciding What Your Want. Inspired by Tom, today I am celebrating my decision to offer life balance related services and products on CreateaBalance.com starting in 2009. 

That part of the decision was easy.

The challenging part of this decision is what to offer! I have committed to spending the next 30 days focusing on what services and products to sell on CreateaBalance.com.

Since I am a mother of two little boys, work full-time, and have a passion for life balance, I am looking to offer services and products that are of interest to my readers and that still allow me to practice the art of life balance. I’m taking action! I’ll learn and adjust along the way.

This is where you come in!
Next week I will be throwing myself a Create a Balance Brainstorming Party and I will be asking you to help me brainstorm services and products that will be useful to you and to people interested in practicing the art of life balance. Free goody bags are available for those attending the party.

By April, 2009, I want to be able to say…I am selling products and services on CreateaBalance.com that are manageable for my lifestyle and that people are buying on a consistent basis.

  

Celebrating New Members of this Community

Every Friday I introduce and celebrate new members of the Create a Balance community. Please take a moment to welcome this week’s new members…..

Celebrating My Gratitude Attitude

I keep a weekly online gratitude journal. Every day I write down one thing that I am grateful for and I post my gratitude attitude every Friday.

1. A quiet date with my husband.
2. Being able to curl up on the coach to watch the 3 hour finale of Survivor.
3. Walking in the sunshine.
4. The ability to travel long distances.
5. Snuggle hugs from my children.
6. Not having to pick up the boys from school today.
7. The amazing women who clean my home.

I welcome you to reflect on your week,
see the goodness in your life, and
share what you are grateful for in the comments section.


This is your moment to celebrate!

Welcome new members of the Create a Balance community.

Share your attitude of gratitude!

Let us know how you are celebrating your life this week.

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Sluggish to Replenished in 86 Minutes Flat

by Stacey / Create a Balance on December 17, 2008 · 24 comments

I’m feeling sluggish today. I took the afternoon off. It’s hard to focus. I’m craving sugar. I’m longing for my blanket and bed. Instead of fighting it, I’m choosing to be still and acknowledge how I am feeling.

10 minutes later…

I have to admit that I was multi-tasking as I was sitting still. I started looking at my Google Reader list and saw Gretchen Rubin’s guest post on Zen Habits titled Beat the Holiday or Financial Blues: 9 Tips for Making Yourself Happier in the Next 30 Minutes.

Since I have the next 30 minutes to focus on making myself feel better, I am going to do a live blogging experiment by working her suggestions and blogging as I go. Let’s see if my mood is lifted and if I can find a happiness boost.

Here we go…..

2:07pm Boost your energy. She is suggesting I go outside (I think it is 3 degrees out right now) for a brisk ten-minute walk. She thinks movement and sunlight will help shift my mood. I’ll be back in ten minutes….

2:28pm I’m back! Fresh air, deep breaths, sunlight, and power walking felt great. This was the first time I officially exercised since Thanksgiving day! Yahoo - perhaps the spell has been broken.

2:29pm Count your blessings. She is encouraging me to take ten minutes to focus on my gratitude attitude. Here I go…

Things going right in my life > My growing and healthy children, my partnership with my husband to build the best possible marriage, planning for my winter vacation, planning for upcoming visitors, my blog.

Things other people do to help me > My husband helps me in countless ways, Tom Vokler helps me commit to my decisions, my parents help me see the bright side of things, my children help me fight adulitis (adultitis is my new favorite word).

Things I am thankful for > Quality time I’m spending with my husband, children, parents, family, and friends. This exercise.

2:43pm Reach out to friends. I talked to my mom while I went for my walk (yes, I know I’m still multi-tasking). I also left a voicemail message for one of my dearest friends. Hearing her voice brought a smile to my day.

2:45pm Perform an action that reflects your values. I value short posts, so I’ll keep this section short. I value the sense of serenity so I just lit some candles. I value physical well-being so I just drank a bottle of water.

2:49pm Rid yourself of a nagging task. This one was painful and was also one of Gretchen’s suggestions. I just scheduled a dentist’s appointment. After all these years, I still hate going to the dentist…but taking this off my to-do list did give me the rush of energy and relief that Gretchen promised. 

2:55pm Create a calmer environment. This one is easy because the amazing women who clean my house just left. Now I just need to maintain this mess-free space.

2:57pm Lay the groundwork for some future fun. Someone recently observed that my life looks like 95% responsibility and 5% fun. This shocking, raw, observation broke my heart. It must just be an outsider’s perspective and not a true reflection of my life. Back to the task at hand, I just looked into some upcoming day trips for my family. During our holiday break we are thinking about going to a local indoor waterpark. I’m excited about spending a day splashing around with my kids. I also checked out photos of where we are going for our sunny winter vacation. The excitement is building.

2:57pm Do a good deed. I’m not sure if it was a good deed, but I just emailed a friend to see if we can get together before the end of the year. I also stressed how important he is to me, even though life is busy and we haven’t seen each other in many months. I feel happy that this person is in my life. This part of my experiment took me 20 minutes b/c I got lost in an email haze.

3:27pm Act happy. I’m smiling! I’m smiling! Look at the picture on the top right corner of my blog. See me smiling? Don’t I look friendly and approachable? Don’t you find my smile contagious? Are you smiling now too?

At the end of Gretchen’s post, she encourages you to practice being selfish…”Some people worry that wanting to be happier is a selfish goal. To the contrary. Studies show that happier people are more sociable, likeable, healthy, and productive—and they’re more inclined to help other people. So in working to boost your own happiness, you’re benefiting others as well.”

It is now 3:33pm.
This 30 minute experiment took me 86 minutes to complete. I now feel energized, thankful, hopeful, replenished, and happy.  

This is your moment!
Leveraging the conversation going on at Zen Habits, what strategies have you tried to give yourself a happiness boost?

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What’s Stopping You?

by Stacey / Create a Balance on December 15, 2008 · 16 comments

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In a recent post, I challenged you to think about what is missing in your life and what is stopping you from incorporating what you want into your busy schedule.

Today’s post takes this conversation one step further and includes a homework assignment for the brave at heart.

I want you to be honest with yourself. Tell yourself what is stopping you. Be specific. Be Personal.

For me, I am currently missing exercise in my life (again). This is one area in my life where again and again and again I fall of the wagon.

I want to exercise every day, but I’m not exercising.
I feel better when I exercise, but I’m not exercising.
I make better eating choices when I exercise, but I’m not exercising.
I have more energy when I exercise, but I’m not exercising.
I’m letting my body down, but I’m not exercising.

What is stopping me?

What are you not doing that you want to be doing?

Today’s homework assignment…

1. Take ten minutes (and only ten minutes) to write down all of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions related to what you want to incorporate into your life. This may be a difficult exercise, but the goal is to be honest with yourself so you can build awareness and identify action steps.

2. Think about what you need to let go of in your life to make room for what you want in your life.

Share your discoveries in the comments section below…

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Celebrate Your Life Friday! 12.12.2008

by Stacey / Create a Balance on December 12, 2008 · 24 comments

Welcome to Celebrate Your Life Friday!

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Celebrating the Choice to Embrace My Authentic Voice

In honor of doing more things badly and focusing on life balance, I welcome you to read my very first post on CreateaBalance.com. After reading my very first post earlier this week, I noticed that I can hear my authentic voice shining through the words and was also able to see how my blog has grown since my first baby step. Today I’m looking back and celebrating my first steps.

  

Celebrating New Members of this Community

Every Friday I’m introducing and celebrating new members of the Create a Balance community. Please take a moment to welcome this week’s new members…..

  

Celebrating My Gratitude Attitude

I am keeping a weekly online gratitude journal. Every day I write down one thing that I am grateful for and I post my gratitude attitude every Friday.

1. Healthy fresh food
2. The gift of celebrating life (birthdays)
3. Living my dream
4. My warm nurturing bed
5. Bright orange gerber daisies
6. Weight Watcher meetings
7. Clean Kleenex 

I welcome you to reflect on your week,
see the goodness in your life, and
share what you are grateful for in the comments section.


This is your moment to celebrate!

Welcome new members of the Create a Balance community.

Share your attitude of gratitude!

Let us know how you celebrate your life.

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Why Focus on Life Balance?

by Stacey / Create a Balance on December 8, 2008 · 27 comments

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Why?
Why is it so important for us to think about our authentic voices? Why do we need to find time, practice choice management, step out of our comfort zones, and live our dreams?

What They Tell Us
Society and the voices inside our heads, sometimes tell us not to bother. They tell us…

  • We may fail,
  • We will get stuck in analysis paralysis,
  • We may not make money following our passions,
  • We may find ourselves in an embarrassing situation,
  • We may get consumed with our dreams and end up spending less time with friends and family.

Don’t Listen
I say, don’t listen to those voices! We can choose to balance our authentic lives with all the other roles and responsibilities we have on our plates! Think about the consequences if we do not embrace our authentic voices and we do not focus on life balance.

  • Are we just walking through life?
  • Are our days purposeless?
  • Did we have the opportunity and let it slip by?

So Many Benefits
Think about the benefits and the joy of living our authentic voices, finding time to live our passions, and focusing on life balance!

  • Working towards a dream is actually living the dream.
  • Our days will be filled with meaning and purpose.
  • We will respond proactively to stress in our lives.
  • We will prioritize and honor our needs and passions.
  • We will feel a stronger sense of wellness and wellbeing.
  • We will be open to contentment and fulfillment.
  • We will be empowered to choose how we spend our “free” time.

If Not Now When? This is Your Moment!

  1. Is there something missing in your life because you can’t seem to find the time to fit it into your busy schedule?
  2. If yes, what is it?
  3. What are the reasons for not choosing to incorporate this into your life?
  4. If your other roles and responsibilities were removed from your life, what would your authentic self choose to do?
  5. What is stopping you?

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