As I prepared for my son’s two year old birthday last week, I knew I wanted to bring cupcakes to his daycare Friday afternoon. As the days slipped by I realized I would have to settle for store bought cupcakes. By Friday morning, I was rathered dissappointed in myself that I still didn’t have cupcakes for the party. What kind of mom was I?
Long story short, I stopped at serveral stores before going to daycare and the closest things I could find were Hostess donnettes (ugh, they weren’t even officially titled donuts). With 10 minutes until the party, I swallowed my pride and bought 3 bags of donnettes (yes, they were right next to the twinkies). This is a far cry from the organic Whole Foods cupcakes had imagined I would be bringing to the my son’s party.
In those moments at the drug store (did I mention I bought them at a drug store) I felt so much guilt of not being the perfect mommy. How could I be so irresponsible to not be able to pull off cupcakes for my own child’s birthday? I was so embarrassed to bring in 3 bags of proccessed donuts, that I also bought a yellow gift bag so I could at least walk into daycare thinking I looked put together. Bree Van de Kamp would have been appauled.
Everything changed, however, the moment I walked into daycare. My son had a huge smile on his face and thought I was mom-of-the-year just for being there. When he saw the donettes, he started chanting “Yeah! Cupcakes!”. He didn’t even notice they were drug store bought donettes.
I realized it wasn’t about the cupcakes, or the donettes, or how I packaged the celebration….it was about the celebration itself. Thank goodness I was able to release my unrealistic expectations and leave my silly pride at the door. When I was at the party, I was in the moment full of love and joy.
Creating a balance sometimes means letting go of useless expectations and focusing on what matters most.
Below is a video of the evolution of the birthday donette. Even without cupcakes, the party was fabulous!