Something went haywire this week. I stopped drinking water, I found myself eating too much bread, and I even ate a chocolate chip cookie. I didn’t workout and barely tweeted about #Mamavation on twitter. I felt bloated, extremely bloated, and to no surprise, I gained two pounds.
Then Monday morning I happened to have read a coaching article about commitment versus trying. The article said when you are trying to achieve something and can’t seem to do it, what you are really doing is being committed to something else. The article said if you are trying as opposed to committing, your underlying automatic commitment (which is any commitment that you have not consciously chosen) has control over you. It goes on to say “The word try can be an excuse not to commit. The word try leaves a back door open for escape”.
And that is when I realized I have been trying to lose weight, trying to eat healthy, and trying to exercise. I was trying, but I have not been committed to losing weight, eating healthy, or exercising. I now know I wasn’t committed as I reflect on my actions or lack of action (as if the data from the scale wasn’t enough evidence to prove my lack of commitment).
This is not easy to write, but it’s true. So now I sit here wondering what it is that I am unconsciously committed to. I sit here trying to examine my life so that I can stop trying and start being committed to what I want.
I want to align my actions with my weight loss and fitness goals by creating serious support structures in my life. I want to dedicate more time each day towards actions that will help me achieve my goals. I want to consciously make a commitment to losing weight, eating healthy, and exercising.
<Do you hear me unconscious commitment to sabotaging my fitness goals! Do you hear me unconscious commitment to staying 10 pounds overweight! Do you hear me unconscious commitment to always being in a state of trying to lose weight! I’ve had enough and I’m making a new commitment to eating healthy and exercising!>
Will You Help Me Become One of the Next Mamavation Moms?
To make sure that I fulfill my new conscious commitment, I want to be one of the next Mamavation Moms and utilize the powerful structures Mamavation has in place for each of the Mamavation Moms.
I will be applying to be one of the next Mamavation Moms between March 22 and April 1 and the voting process will take place between April 5 and April 12.
You are a Phenomenal Woman!
I leave you today with some inspiring words by Maya Angelou. Regardless of how much weight I may or may not lose each week, regardless of your size, or if you lost weight last week or gained weight last week, remember…you are a phenomenal woman just the way you are in this very moment in time.
PHENOMENAL WOMAN
by Maya Angelou
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing of my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
The palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
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Nice post! That’s a great realization…that you are actually ‘commited’ to something else. I think for me it’s the commitment to comforting myself! (as in the bowl of ice cream i just ate cuz I’m a wee bit lonely?) I’ve never heard of that thing you are applying for…but I’m sure you will get it!
Megan – Thanks. It would be great to create a long list of non-food related activities that would comfort us.
Good luck to you and be sure to look into pledging the Sistahood. I love this poem!
kia´s last blog ..things I am enjoying: maternity fashion
There is a BIG difference between committing vs. trying. It’s all a mind set. And that mind set is the only thing that gets you to the finish line. XXOO
Leah @Bookieboo´s last blog ..@Chefsrequested at #Fitbloggin
Great post! WOW – I love the try vs. commitment. How true is that? Good luck on becoming the next power house!
Pamela M. Kramer´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday – Bed Time
In the South West UK there is a coloquial term for ladies that have a few extra pounds – pasty munchers – named after the local savory Cornish Pasty. Unfortunately I only discovered this a year or so after calling my blog the same name. Rolls eyes
Muncher´s last blog ..Seville A Sultry Spanish City
I like the distinction between “try” vs. “commit.” It makes sense why Yoda said, “Do or Do Not. There is no try.”
J.D. Meier´s last blog ..Cheat Sheet – Monday Vision, Daily Outcomes, and Friday Reflection Pattern
Kia – Thanks for your support.
Leah @Bookieboo – “…that mind set is the only thing that gets you to the finish line.” – This is something I remind myself of everyday. Thanks!
Pamela M. Kramer – Try vs. commitment is very mind opening. It’s amazing how our minds can play tricks on us.
Muncher – Yikes.
J.D. – Love the Yoda quote!
Stacey / Create a Balance´s last blog ..Mamavation Monday – 3/29/2010